*gt pov: the frenemy
You know I love to give you blog substance to chew on and the topic of frenemies came to mind for discussion. There isn’t a woman alive who hasn’t experienced “the friend who you thought was a friend but never really was a friend.” She was in your life for her own personal opportunistic reasons. The common denominator of a frenemy is that she’s never fully trustworthy. But the paradox is that they often have redeemable qualities such as humor, boldness, or outspokenness but then there’s the other side…
Here are the Seven Giant red flags of a frenemy: 1. They have redeemable qualities; but your gut tells you that something isn’t right with them.2. They are secretly jealous/envious of the good things that happen for you but they often smize about it. 3.They act out in passive/aggressive ways for attention that leave you feeling confused & thrown off track. 4. They are often silently competitive with you using your life as their measuring stick. 5. They have a secret desire to see you fail miserably. 6. They are fundamentally unhappy in their own lives and are very catty and critical of others. 7. The relationship is often lopsided: they get more out of your time than you with them.
Whether you’ve been a frenemy or been on the receiving end; having frenemies are a part of the growing pains of life. Sometimes the experiences can be hurtful & draining but most times they are opportunities for us to learn about human nature. With friends as in all relationships there are reasons, seasons, and lifetimes and sometimes we have to admit when we’ve stayed too long in situations that we’ve either outgrown or no longer emotionally nurture us. Ending friendships aren’t always the easiest but frenemies and poor boundaries do not mix because it is so easy for them to violate them on cue. Frenemies are not harmless. I repeat. Frenemies are not harmless. If you give them an inch they will take a kidney causing serious damage to your quality of life.
The vital lesson: In life you’ve got to learn how to trust your gut when it comes to handing over trust.
Speak about it. How have you dealt with frenemies?