your bawse: fear, failure, courage
A friendly Friday reminder of the power of story: The stories we listen to and the stories we tell ourselves.
This may not apply to your perfection; so I’ll speak for myself. I am guilty guilty guilty and guiltier than guilt when it comes to undermining, undercutting, and shrink wrapping my potential with the small sad story. I’m guilty of sticking my big toe in, checking the temperature, and pulling my whole body out waiting for perfect conditions knowing damn well that was my fear being bawse. Is that embarrassing? Yes and *Kanye Shrugs*. It’s called life and learning. I thought I was being slick but life handed me exactly what I expected back; not what I asked for. The small sad stories we tell ourselves are manageable but they come with small rewards that feel like settling for third, fourth, and sixth best. However believing your biggest most unfathomable of dreams come with the risk of being wrong, looking stupid, looking crazy, being laughed at, tripping on that crack in the sidewalk, breaking your ankle or having your husband or wife leave you. Now that’s scary. But fear of failure never goes away. What we need is more courage to act beyond the unknown. We tend to repeat what we know and what was modeled to us and I’m of no exception but we always have an open invitation to grown above and beyond our comfort zone.
You simply have to remind yourself that the biggest rewards come to those who are willing to take the most criticism *cough* Rihanna, Beyonce, Jay, Kanye, Kim K *cough* I now on most accounts see failure as a positive thing because it’s where I’ve learned my most powerful lessons on courage and strength. Small sad stories don’t carry impactful lessons and they certainly don’t bring you to where we all desire to be: first place in our dreams.